byLigia Andrade (Zuniga), M.A.
Traveling alone to a destination you have never traveled to, knowing no one but one person, and they don’t even know you’re coming is pretty scary, right? Imagine adding being a quadriplegic to that equation. Now it seems even scarier. Well, it is very scary, but totally doable, because I did it, survived it, and now I’m sharing this experience with anyone who wants to know how…
Organizing the Trip
I decided to surprise my boyfriend whom lives in Missouri for his birthday. I live in California, and I am a quadriplegic. I am a C-5/C-6 complete quadriplegic 32-year-old female. Four years ago, I was in a rollover car accident where I lost control of my SUV, broke my neck, and severed my spinal cord. Before my accident I used to love to travel. As soon as I was injured I thought this part of my life was over. I thought it would be completely impossible for me to travel now, especially by myself. The part that seemed really impossible was that I don’t really have any hand function at all. My right arm is the only one that’s functional, which means I need help with pretty much everything except for driving my wheelchair. How on earth would I be able to manage by myself, who would help me, how would this ever be possible?
When planning a trip like this keeping a realistic timeline is really important. There needs to be enough time to plan, anticipate plans to change, and have a plan B. Luckily, my boyfriend’s birthday was in October and it was only August. This gave me two months to plan for the trip, as well as gave me time if things did not turn out the way I would have liked them to. Before this adventure could begin, I had to make a list of everything that would be an absolute necessity to make this successful. I also created a list of people that would be my support system in each category. Both of these elements working together would be absolutely critical in making this whole plan work. The list included, caregiving, flight, care plan, finances, room and board, transportation, party planning, emergency plan, and a list of what to bring. I tried to make the list in order of priority, but some things just ended up falling into place as other things were being planned. I identified my boyfriend’s sister as my point of contact in Missouri in general for this entire project. I really needed her help for several things, interviewing caregivers, finding out about hotels, transportation, and planning the party.
I was really nervous and uneasy about the trip. I didn’t even know where to start. I wanted to get some advice from people who had done this type of thing before and had a spinal cord injury, so I would at least know where my first focus should be directed. I posted something on Facebook in the spinal cord injury section about some advice from people who have traveled as high-level quadriplegics by themselves. I received some feedback from a couple of people, but nothing that I could really use. I spoke to a friend who had traveled across the country before, and he gave me some tips and advice. There were several websites online that I navigated through looking for some advice, there weren’t really any geared towards quadriplegics, everything was more for paraplegics. I realized that I just had to start planning, I had to start somewhere. First order of business, securing a caregiver.
Caregiving was one of the most important components for my trip to be successful. I spoke to all of my caregivers and let them know my plan. My two options were to take a caregiver with me, or to hire one in Missouri. If I were to take a caregiver with me, I would have to pay for their flight, as well as their hotel stay, and the hours they would be working with me. It would also be guaranteed that somebody would know how to do my care. If I were to hire a caregiver in Missouri, I would just have to pay for the hours they would assist me. The flipside of that was that I would have to train them from scratch being that we didn’t know each other, and I would run the risk of crappy care.
After speaking with my caregivers, none of them would be able to accompany me on my trip, so my only option was to hire someone in Missouri. I spoke to my boyfriend’s sister and she assured me that she could assist me in case that I could not find anyone else to. She also reassured me that she would be able to help out with whatever I needed in the process of finding care. First I asked around to friends and family that I knew had connections in Missouri, if they knew any caregivers that I could hire while I was there. Usually when looking for care, I post ads on craigslist, so that is what I did for this as well. While I was looking for a caregiver, I was also looking for flights, which meant that I had to decide on when I would be traveling. I decided to travel between October 10 and October 17. The dates would be very important for my ad.
In my ad, I stated that I needed a caregiver, my exact situation physically, everything I needed assistance with in full detail, the dates I would be in Missouri, the hours day and night that I would need assistance, how much I was willing to pay, and what I was specifically looking for in a caregiver. Due to the nature of my trip and how long I would be there, I really needed to find someone who was experienced in spinal cord injury or caring for someone in this capacity. I received over 20 replies.
I filtered through all of the resumes and selected those that I felt were the most experienced. I selected about five or six people, and first did a phone screening with them. I was then able to narrow it down to three or four people. I used Skype to interview them, and for the final interview I had my boyfriend’s sister interview them in person. I asked her to let me know what she thought, being that she was experienced in spinal cord injury, and was also a very good judge of character. I was able to narrow it down to one person to do my general care, and one person to do my hair and my makeup. I also selected one person to be my backup caregiver in case it did not work out with the person that I had selected. I drafted a contract for all three people and was very clear with them about my expectations. The contract included how much they would be paid, when rest periods would be, the nature of the job, hours they would be working, and other legalities that would protect me in case of anything fraudulent or anything that would endanger my well-being of any sort. I let the caregivers know that as soon as I figured everything out I would let them know my itinerary, and send them a copy of my care plan in full detail. I also asked them to research spinal cord injury, and all of the things I would need assistance with.
While I was looking for a caregiver, I was typing up a step-by-step fully detailed care plan. This document explained every part of my care. It also included what supplies and products would be needed for that particular part. I also took a video on parts of my care that were extremely important. The care plan, I e-mailed to the caregivers that I selected. The videos, I saved onto my cell phone to be easily accessible, and because some of the nature of the videos was personal. I only allowed them as a reference as the care was being done.
Like I stated above, while I was searching for a caregiver I was also looking for a flight. I went with an airline that I was comfortable with and that I had already flown with. I picked Southwest Airlines because I knew them, and I flew with them a couple of years ago to Las Vegas. I also chose them because they’re fairly inexpensive, and you are allowed two bags, a carry-on, and any bags with medical supplies are free. I researched some prices on the Internet, but chose to call the airline directly, and speak to someone live. When I spoke to the agent over the phone I explained to her my situation, what my needs were, and that I was looking for the best deal possible. She explained to me that flying Tuesday, Wednesday, or Thursday would give me the best prices available. She also explained that because I was booking two months in advance, I would also find really good prices as well. The price of the airline ticket would definitely be the deciding factor on when I would be traveling. I decided to fly out Wednesday October 10, and come back on Wednesday October 17, giving me an excellent price. The other awesome thing was that I would be arriving in Missouri on his actual birthday, which added to the big surprise! The agent explained to me what to do when I got to the airport. She noted on my ticket that I was disabled and needed extra help. She also explained what to do with my wheelchair and my bags. Whoever would be assisting me onto the airplane would be able to receive a special boarding pass as soon as we got to the airport, same thing for the return flight. That’s It! My airline ticket was booked and was nonrefundable, no turning back.
The next order of business would be looking for a hotel. Again, because I was booking so far in advance, I was hoping to get a good deal. I researched three or four different hotels and picked something that would be the most economical, and would have everything I needed, such as a role in shower. Location was also very important. I wanted to choose a hotel that would be close to my boyfriend’s house and if possible the airport. I also wanted to be near local businesses such as restaurants and stores. Most of the places I found had different rates on the weekend as opposed to during the week. The fluctuation of prices was significant from the weekend to the week. I ended up choosing a place that would charge me one flat rate for the entire week, had all the accessibility I needed, and was close to one out of the two places I needed to be close to. After I booked my room, the agent on the phone also informed me that because October was not a popular month to visit Missouri the rates were even better.
Now that I had booked my flight, booked my hotel, and found a caregiver, I had to set up transportation from the airport to my hotel. I had a few options. A taxicab would cost me about $150 from the airport to the hotel. A shuttle would cost me about $75 from the airport to the hotel. Both of them would be accessible, however, they would run me a little bit more than an able-bodied person taking a cab or shuttle from the airport to their hotel. Luckily, my boyfriend’s sister made up a story saying that she had some clients coming in from out of town. She told him that one of them was in a chair and she needed to borrow his van since it was accessible. It worked! She would be picking me up from the airport. This option definitely saved me some money, and stress.
Packing is always so complicated when you have a disability. Depending on your disability, it requires packing so much stuff! I started out with a list of things in order of process. I tried to take as many travel size items as I could to save room. I packed everything by going down the list making sure I had nothing to purchase when I got to Missouri. All of my medications went into my luggage, so it would be no problem getting through security. Just a small amount of necessary medication went into my purse. I also made sure that I had plenty of extras of things that were important, especially clothing and medical supplies. All of my bags were labeled, and made sure there was something on the luggage that would be easily recognizable.
The Day Of
Getting to the airport was a piece of cake, I was so excited and could not believe I was actually going through with this! My caregiver got me to the airport, and we unloaded the van with help from the curbside attendant. I was able to check in my bags curbside, my caregiver was going to help me onto the plane, so the attendant produced a special boarding pass for her to get through security, and help me onto the plane. Getting through the line for security was fairly quick, because there was priority for people with disabilities. However, waiting for an attendant, getting patted down, taking my shoes off, and having them search all of my things was very time-consuming. Arriving to the airport a couple of hours before takeoff was very beneficial. After getting through security, we had at least another hour to spare. My caregiver and I got breakfast, and then proceeded to the gate. Because I have disability, I was able to get early boarding.
Before boarding I explained to the flight attendants and the luggage handlers that would be taking my chair down to cargo, how to work my chair. I left it on manual, so they wouldn’t even have to turn it on, they could just push it. My caregiver transferred me to an aisle seat, which seemed comparable to a moving dolly. The flight attendants wheeled me to my seat on the plane, and my caregiver transferred me to my seat. Luckily I had brought my sliding board, which really helped in transferring. I was strapped in and ready to go.
The plane ride to Missouri was not so bad. The hard part was the seat on the airplane. The seats were really slick, and after a couple of hours I was a little sore. The take off was not so bad, it was the landing that scared me. It was so hard to catch my balance, especially because I am a quadriplegic. Being that I needed help transferring from my airline seat to my wheelchair, I needed to wait until everyone got off the plane first. As soon as everyone was gone, the flight attendants and the airline staff transfered me from my seat to the dolly looking wheelchair thing, and wheeled me to my wheelchair. Luckily, nothing on my chair was damaged. I was transferred onto my chair, and my boyfriend’s sister was waiting for me at the gate, so I proceeded to baggage claim.
On the way home, the process was similar to the flight to Missouri. It was reverse, I got onto the plane, with help from the airline staff. At arriving in California, my caregiver was waiting for me and was able to help me. Over all, considering the circumstances, the trip was a success. I learned so much, it felt so good to be able to do something I never thought I would be able to do again. I’m so glad I figured out a way that this could be possible. I’m so happy to share this with others to create better and better ways to maintain a wonderful quality of life.
Ligia Andrade (Zuniga), is it a 32-year-old C5/C6 complete quadriplegic from a spinal cord injury after experiencing an extreme automobile accident four years ago. She is a Bay Area native, holds a Bachelors Degree in Human Services with an emphasis in Administration and Counseling, and a Masters Degree in Public Administration from Notre Dame de Namur University in Belmont, California. Ligia is a sex educator for Sexability, an organization that is dedicated to transforming sexuality and disability, and empowering people with disabilities to explore sexuality and create intimate loving relationships.
Ligia Andrade (Zuniga), M.A. a Bay Area native has dedicated her focus on educating and empowering the disabled community on various aspects of independent living, and pursuing a well-rounded fulfilling life. Ligia holds a Bachelors Degree in Human Services with an emphasis in Administration and Counseling, and a Masters Degree in Public Administration from Notre Dame de Namur University in Belmont, California. She is also currently pursuing her PhD in Human Sexuality with an emphasis in Spinal Cord Injury. Ligia leads the Sexuality After Spinal Cord Injury Peer Group through the Santa Clara Valley Medical Center Spinal Cord Injury Peer Support Program. For two years after her injury she was employed through the Silicon Valley Independent Living Center, where she led the Stepping Stones Program/Olmstead Program. This program was geared towards helping people with disabilities transition out of nursing homes or institutions, and/ or prevent them from becoming institutionalized by following a curriculum geared towards independent living. Currently, she and another member of the Spinal Cord Injury community are relaunching an organization called Sexability, which is dedicated to educating people with disabilities to create intimate loving relationship, and be self expressed in their sexuality.
Ligia acquired a C-5/C6 complete spinal cord injury in 2009 following an automobile accident, and has since been actively and deeply involved in the spinal cord injury community in the Bay Area. She has been a Peer Supporter for four years through the Santa Clara Valley Medical Center Spinal Cord Injury Peer Support Program. Through the Peer Support Program, she along with other peers, encourage and teach newly injured people how to survive such a life-changing injury. Soon after her injury, she went back to doing the things she loved, which included travel. Ligia continuously creates opportunities for travel to be accessible and possible for all people regardless of their lifestyle or situation by sharing her travel experiences. Ligia currently resides in Santa Clara County and has two children.